"all you wanted was a ticket for a free plane ride
and a hand to hold and a mind to roam"
- Talika

New Zealand

Anonymous said: Whats going on in ur life atm?

lots of things

i go to uni and i work at an indoor snowdome and i volunteer at a radio station

i don’t really have a ‘group’ of friends at the moment i have like random pockets of people who i adore from different areas of my life and then the rest moved down to wellington

i’m getting very restless living at home and want to move out next year

don’t know if i like my degree but i’ll probably keep going with it, hopefully do an exchange next year

romantic life has been boring and flat this year; talking to a very lovely guy atm but he lives in another city

that’s pretty much it, this year’s been very full on and confusing but i’m happy :) :)

Anonymous said: Why are you having doubts? (I'm currently going through a similar situation of distance with this boy from my old school sorry if I'm being invasive)

you can be as invasive as you like! It’s mainly that I’ve never been in a relationship so whenever I meet/date guys I don’t know what to look for/expect and i’ve turned down like 3 guys cause i didn’t feel any spark or anything, but i’m starting to think it might be me who has some skewed ideals in my brain and i need to loosen up. With this guy I met him one night and i heard he was interested in me and we got along and he’s very funny and charming but that was all I could gather before I came back here. We talk on facebook now so idk i just don’t have any huge feelings about it currently, but i would be interested in hanging out with him more and seeing what would happen

Anonymous said: Who's this lovely person you met?! Do they live in Wellington or Auckland??

a nice boy but as usual i am unsure about it, wellington

Anonymous said: You're a god, thankyou so much! I feel like you're totally right- I keep thinking like, I could die tomorrow, he could die tomorrow. If we like each other then?? But he also said he's not ready to commit which I understand? He said he's not ready for something serious and needs to end it before he gets too deep. I feel like I should let him go for now and if it's meant to be he'll come back? I don't know :/ my stomach is in knots I feel so sad and anxious.

i don’t reckon it’s fair that he’s making you feel like that! Maybe letting him go would be the best cause it’ll lead him to realise what a catch you are

Anonymous said: Into a serious long term relationship if it continues. And he brought up how summer hols r 4 months and we won't be together for them. it's literally killing me. He's always beenhonest with me and I appreciate it but it kills me that he likes me but doesn't want to be with me?? I don't know how to feel I'm super sad and I keep getting smashed to deal with the pain. His friend said I'm the most serious thing he's ever had. He said he wanted to try again later but I can't wait around? Idk? Help me

Tell him he might get run over by a bus tomorrow.

Seriously. he sounds either scared or like he’s thought about it way too much. Like, I will eat a piece of cake because it’s fucking delicious. I’m not going to push that cake away and be like, “no, i’m not ready for the aftertaste of cake, plus i’ll be too full and i won’t feel like dinner and i’ll feel sick afterwards.” I will eat that fucking cake because it tastes fucking good.

He’s being very self-important. It sounds like he’s trying to construct everything so that he will be happy in the long term. You need to just be like, hey dude, if you like me, you like me. You could get hit by a bus tomorrow, and in whatever comes after that you’ll realise you wasted what we could have had. Life is too short to plan relationships like that. If he’s afraid of squandering it, tell him to forget it, because there’s no hard feelings in trying and failing. who cares about summer hols. they’re not now.

if tjat doesn’t change his mind then i reckon you sound like a rad girl who will have multiple guys vying for your attention. He’s going to miss his chance. Plus, it’s totally unfair to leave you in this state of limbo which is ultimately hurting you. lay the facts out on the table, friend. life is way too short for this.

hope this helped x

Anonymous said: George I have a question- I've been seeing this boy for 6 weeks and the other day he was like "I can't stop kissing you. I really like you alot." But then on Saturday he said that he can't do this anymore because he really likes me but isn't ready for a relationship (never had a gf)- he's too stupid and immature and not ready right now, so he wants to end it now before he gets in too deep because he likes me and doesn't want to get mixed up in deep emotions bc he can see this turning cont

hmm, ok



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Anonymous said: Any boys in your life atm??

i met someone really lovely when i visited wellington last week but home, no. we’ll see 

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i laughed and felt sorry for australia at their last election but jesus nz’s not much better

in other news this is a recent photo of me which i like which is rare

i met this beautiful male last night and i was so happy with myself for being confident enough to approach him but despite being so sure he was gay he then started talking about his girlfriend and i was like mother fucker


Thank you so much friend!! no cute boys atm but hopefully soon eh